File this in the irony folder…
So, the Mormon leaders, after calling on their members to spend millions of dollars and tens of thousands of man hours to pass an amendment to STRIP US OF OUR RIGHTS, an inherently cruel and disrespectful act and devoid of love,
NOW asks it’s members to treat others with:
“civility, with respect and with love.”
I’m sorry, too late for that. They’ve been calling for cruelty, disrespect and the opposite of love for months now, this rings hollow.
As I was taught as a Mormon, to repent you must
Feel sorrow for what you did.
Ask for forgiveness.
Rectify the wrongs you did.
Forsake the sin.
Receive forgiveness.
So, if the Mormon church wants forgiveness for the wrong it did to us, here is what they must do.
Acknowledge what they did to pass the hateful prop 8 was wrong and publicly ask forgiveness.
Call for the funding and passage of the repeal of prop 8’s spiteful amendment.
Never fund another anti-gay amendment or similar legislation ever again.
Then receive forgiveness.
I won’t hold my breath.
UtahCog, Isocrat and Chedner have some great responses to this:
To quote:
UtahCog, in Protest:
I wish this all wasn’t happening, though, and that we all could just live and let live. I also understand you just can’t take it without defending yourself. I know first hand the damage done. They have played a huge part in stepping into the affairs of our homes, lives, and churches, legally harming many of our families. In rhetoric, they have insulted our marriages, our families, and even our children, and made it all worse in then asking for our respect for the incivility (for example: Chedner’s blog and isocrat’s blog). I could see how a peaceful protest outside their church may be a reasonable response.
Isocrat, in Down is the new Up:
“Respect”, for example. The LDS church specifically aims to not treat our families with respect. They specifically place us at or, really, below second class family status, if the leaders will even call us “families”. In fact you’ll hear many in the church deride our hope for equal legal rights and responsibilities as merely a hope for their social respect, which they say they cannot give on religious grounds. Now, they have instituted a huge legal slap in the face to our homes, but somehow have decided that, as long as they do it calmly and while merely feeling love, that it is respect; it is civil; it is love.
Chedner, in rolling eyes:
No vilification, eh? Like, “Gays marriage will result in the downfall of society and the fundamental understanding of a family; it is an evil institution inspired by Satan.” (See various Ensigns and statements made by LDS General Authorities.)
No intimidation, eh? Like, “If your child enters into a gay relationship, you should not allow his/her partner into your family.” (See various Ensigns and statements made by LDS General Authorities.)
No harassment, eh? Like, oh, I don’t know, the entire Proposition 8 campaign.
No erroneous information, eh? Like, “Legalizing gay marriage will force religions to accept homosexuality, will force private adoption agencies to adopt to gay couples, has the same rights as domestic partnerships and civil unions.” (See the official LDS Church’s site concerning Proposition 8.)
The term “Smiling Eyes” comes to mind.



i clicked that link,
read the first paragraph,
and immediately my stomach sickened, i felt entirely disguisted, and i felt like spitting at my computer screen.
it never amazes me how reasonably you take all of this, trey. you’re clearheaded enough to give really insightful suggestion about what’s so ironic about all of this. me, if i was in your shoes, i’d merely be in fits of emotional outrage and certainly not able to express myself in a clearheaded way.
my heart sank when i realized prop 8 was going to pass.
i looked at your post and then yondalla’s post about the passing of prop 8 — posts that talk about /continuing/ to fight … and i admired you both. i hope i can be half as able to see the kinds of perspective that the both of you are able to still get even after all of this.
like a lot of the other commenters, i feel sorry, sad, for this that’s happened. how suddenly rights can be stripped away, just like that… .
be well, trey. you and your family.
Reply to silphand again, i feel compelled to thank you for this blog you have. i told you before that it was my first real example that my dreams of being a father wasn’t just dreams, but /could actually be reality/ one day. thanks for sharing the reality of your family with all of us on the ‘net, Trey.
Oh believe me, I fight back anger and resentment (not always successfully).
Yes, thank YOU for reading and commenting, you and others keep me blogging. I have new motivation for this blog and more actions now.
THIS IS NOT OVER!
Reply to Trey===
Oh believe me, I fight back anger and resentment (not always successfully).
===
reminds me of the “don’t take it so personally” story you wrote about. (which, btw, was a very emotionally gripping read). somehow, the posts sparked by strong emotion also are the posts that pack so much insight — i guess it’s your writing style and analytical mind? — .. i remember how moving your four[?] part series about that close intimate friendship you had when you were young.. then going deeply back into the closet again.. and then how the mormon community intersected with all of this. your blog captured that, and — even in these times — your blog continues to capture what you go through in life and shows the kind of human spirit [if that's not too cliche'd a phrase] that is good for us to read.
==
THIS IS NOT OVER!
==
i love how you say this. yes. keep reminding us of your conviction and your strength — this is good stuff to hear, it’s heartening!
you all are so courageous. comes with the territory for being a father (and damn but don’t you have a RIGHT to be enraged, as a father), but still, one thing i love about blogs is that i get to sense this very real human aspect of people — more than a news article or wikipedia entry. it can be heartening, it can be sensitizing, and it can be moving.
as long as you keep writing, trey, i’ll be reading! i love your posts, i do. /especially/ the posts motivated by a sparks strong emotion.
Reply to silphThanks Silph.
I’ve resolved to post once a day now. Something. Anything. A small part of my growing resolve to become a daily activist!
Reply to Trey