Comments on: Our Foster-Adoption progress http://www.lathefamily.org/2009/10/our-foster-adoption-progress.shtml An unconventional family in a conventional world, taking notes Thu, 04 Mar 2010 17:17:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Eleanor & Rosalind's Papa http://www.lathefamily.org/2009/10/our-foster-adoption-progress.shtml/comment-page-1#comment-3190 Eleanor & Rosalind's Papa Sat, 31 Oct 2009 14:57:57 +0000 http://www.lathefamily.org/?p=2254#comment-3190 We also have gone the foster-adopt route after a very successful private adoption of Eleanor 4 and a half years ago, and then a series of disappointments with failed private adoptions. We ended up being matched with a girl from foster who is two weeks older than Eleanor. Now the adoption is final and we have the fun of twins without the sleep deprivation of two newborns. The girls want a little brother, so we're still in the pool. Working with the foster system has been draining -- no resources, misinformation, disappointments. We had a baby for a few months before the birthfather showed up, and last month a placement fell through when the prior foster parents found out we were gay and changed their mind. I think I'm getting too old for this rollercoaster.... We also have gone the foster-adopt route after a very successful private adoption of Eleanor 4 and a half years ago, and then a series of disappointments with failed private adoptions.

We ended up being matched with a girl from foster who is two weeks older than Eleanor. Now the adoption is final and we have the fun of twins without the sleep deprivation of two newborns.

The girls want a little brother, so we’re still in the pool. Working with the foster system has been draining — no resources, misinformation, disappointments. We had a baby for a few months before the birthfather showed up, and last month a placement fell through when the prior foster parents found out we were gay and changed their mind. I think I’m getting too old for this rollercoaster….

]]> By: Lauren http://www.lathefamily.org/2009/10/our-foster-adoption-progress.shtml/comment-page-1#comment-3187 Lauren Thu, 29 Oct 2009 19:54:46 +0000 http://www.lathefamily.org/?p=2254#comment-3187 I can't imagine how hard it is to choose and to realistically assess the ability of your family to deal with various issues. Good luck! I can’t imagine how hard it is to choose and to realistically assess the ability of your family to deal with various issues. Good luck!

]]> By: Carrie Jo http://www.lathefamily.org/2009/10/our-foster-adoption-progress.shtml/comment-page-1#comment-3175 Carrie Jo Sun, 25 Oct 2009 18:23:08 +0000 http://www.lathefamily.org/?p=2254#comment-3175 This why I get so frustrated when people say :Why don't you just adopt?" There is no "just" adopting. It's a long drawn-out process most often filled with heart ache and heart break. I wish you all so much luck that you are able to find the right sibling for Emma. This why I get so frustrated when people say :Why don’t you just adopt?” There is no “just” adopting. It’s a long drawn-out process most often filled with heart ache and heart break.

I wish you all so much luck that you are able to find the right sibling for Emma.

]]> By: Trey http://www.lathefamily.org/2009/10/our-foster-adoption-progress.shtml/comment-page-1#comment-3174 Trey Sat, 24 Oct 2009 23:03:09 +0000 http://www.lathefamily.org/?p=2254#comment-3174 Good luck to you too Thorn! Let us know how it turns out :D, I'll keep track of you blog. Good luck to you too Thorn!
Let us know how it turns out :D , I’ll keep track of you blog.

]]> By: Thorn http://www.lathefamily.org/2009/10/our-foster-adoption-progress.shtml/comment-page-1#comment-3173 Thorn Sat, 24 Oct 2009 22:11:28 +0000 http://www.lathefamily.org/?p=2254#comment-3173 Good luck. My partner and I are working on adopting from foster care too, and it's so difficult on so many levels. Good luck. My partner and I are working on adopting from foster care too, and it’s so difficult on so many levels.

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